A group of elderly women came together to share their profound reflections on life, discussing their regrets and revealing what they would do differently if they were young again. Their collective wisdom and experiences offered poignant insights, painting a vivid picture of life’s lessons and the paths they might have taken.

Being in the 20’s of your life is hard. This is the age at which you are in the process of figuring out how to turn your dreams into reality. This is the time in which you would like to do everything it takes to reach success.

In the process of chasing after our dreams, it is hard not to look at the people surrounding us. When other people of our age seem to be a step ahead of us, life may seem like a race.

And participating in a race always comes with great pressure weighed on our shoulders. There is always the expectation of becoming number 1, and of being perfect at what we do.

According to a survey conducted by a Wellness Spa, The Sanctuary Spa, 40% of women who participated in their survey, said they are about to burn out from the stress and anxiety that comes with the pressure of meeting self-expectations.

To encourage women to learn how to take a deep breath, relax, and let go of the pressure weighed on their shoulders, The Sanctuary Spa asked women from the older generation to share what advice they could give to their 25-year-old self.

Their answers will help you discern what matters in your life.

If I were a young woman…

The elderly woman is saying in the photo: "If I had my time I wouldn't create a 'to-do' list, I'd create a 'do-not-do' list."

“If I had my time again I wouldn’t create a ‘to-do’ list, I’d create a ‘don’t do’ list.”

A photo of a black elderly woman who was one of the participants in the project.

“I’d give myself time to indulge in the things that I now understand are the most important.”

Another photo of an elderly woman.

“What I wouldn’t give to extend those goodnight kisses instead of moaning about having to get up early in the morning.”

“What I wouldn’t give for the next second of cuddling my babies before they became too big to hold.” 

Photo of an elderly woman.

“What I wouldn’t give for 5 more minutes on the dance floor while my legs were still strong enough to carry me.”

The elderly women also noted the importance of the word being. Because the young women of today’s generation are burnt out from their careers, goals, and self-expectations.

We forget to be lost in the moment, at peace with the world, and be kind to ourselves. These moments are invaluable and priceless… once gone, they will never be taken back.

Elderly woman in the photo.

“Believe me, If I were a young woman now, I’d spend more time being, not doing.

According to The Sanctuary Spa, 80% of women admit to feeling pressure to be perfect or do more despite accomplishing an average of 26 tasks a day.

Hence, they are encouraging women to let go of the heavyweight they are carrying from the pressure on their shoulders. After all, no dying man ever wished of working harder, but of living in the moments that passed their eyes.

These women, through their heartfelt stories, gifted us with a profound understanding of the importance of seizing opportunities, cherishing relationships, and pursuing personal growth.

Their words serve as a gentle reminder to embrace life’s journey fully, mindful of the lessons shared by those who have traversed its winding roads before us.

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